But her instructors say....

If you read comment boards or forums you are likely to hear parents droning on and on about this and that. Some topics are how they weren't happy at this tournament, how it was ran, the umpires, the competition etc. Parents complain about coaches especially coaches who have daughters on the team. Daddy ball they will call it this is one thing I see so much about. Let's explore this for a second shall we?

On a team coached by the father of a player the biggest complaint is that his daughter is either
a) a pitcher
b) IF'er (see last post about OF'ers)
c) always on the field..never on the bench
Mostly all of the above if I think about it.

But I ask you this parents who complain of this. Really be honest take off your rose colored glasses for a moment. What is your daughter doing to change her play time, position in the line up? Or are you just whining about it on the sidelines with the other parents planting little time bombs that will explode and the casualty will be your daughters team or her spot on it. Either way I suggest this.
Instead of complaining and whining and telling everyone how your private trainer for lil Betty said she should be the # 4 batter or playing an IF starting position. Please reread that! Seriously moms and dads you are paying this coach the private coach who is helping her to hit or pitch or whatever. Do you really think he is going to say "well your daughter is just about average but keep paying me 50-60 bucks an hour and she will get better not because of me but because of repetition and practice". ABSOLUTELY NOT!

 I have a thought, how about you let your daughter talk to her coach and ask him/her if she could try out for that spot she wants (not you her). Ask her to ask the coach if she could challenge for the position at the practice before the next tournament. If he/she says no then you have an argument for the daddy ball thing. But if they allow it you may be surprised that the player who has the position deserves it because she is better, if not then your daughter has her chance to shine at the next game. And she better work hard to keep it.

The point I think I am trying to get at is this. Just because you have invested a lot of $$ in private training for your daughter doesn't give her the golden ticket to a position. A good coach will put a player with real game time talent in the position instead of a girl who does well with private instruction. The question you should ask yourself before blaming Daddy ball is this. Can your daughter apply the private instruction it to real game time? Can she make quick decisions in the IF or OF with a defensive play? Does she know how to adjust to live pitching not a ball machine or the tee your daughters instructor uses? If she does and she does so honestly not through mommy and daddy's eyes then find another team and stop spreading venom on the sidelines of a team you want to leave or will probably end up leaving anyway!